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How to Survive Working Opposite Shifts with Your Spouse

January 16, 2019

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Working opposite shifts can be hard. Especially while you’re still adjusting to a new schedule.

Days can go by without seeing each other awake. That’s rough.

But it’s necessary if your jobs require you to work at certain times of the day.

So here are a few ways my husband and I make the most of working on different schedules.

How to Survive Working Opposite Shifts with Your Spouse

{ This post was sponsored by Tai Pei and all opinions expressed in my post are my own. }

Make the most of the time you DO have together

This probably goes without saying. But you’d be surprised how many times B gets home from work at 8:00pm, quickly says hi, then retreats to his man cave to play video games.

And before you’re like “omg why would he do that?” sometimes I have stuff I’m working on or a show he doesn’t want to watch.

So it can be easy to be stuck in the doing-your-own-thing mindset because you’re just not used to him being there.

You may have to remind yourself to spend time together.

Watch a movie together or get into a tv series together. Talk about your day. Just spend quality time together (especially if your kid is sleeping!)

If your little one is awake, have family time. We so rarely have family time that I set a rule of no video games while Toot’s awake.

Take a staycation together

If you have vacation time to take from work, take it together! You can just stay home if you have nowhere to go.

It’s nice to just be home with the whole family.

On our last staycation, we both took a week off. We spent most of the week at home, but we did take a two-day trip to St. Louis which is only a little over an hour away.

Texting your spouse

Communicate throughout the day

We text each other throughout the day. Both of our jobs are pretty lax about having cell phones during the day.

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If your job doesn’t allow you to quickly text your spouse, consider calling or texting on a break or during your “lunch” time.

You don’t have to have full on conversations each time. Sometimes we just send a quick “I love you.” And by quick, I mean we’ve gotten efficiency down so we just text or say “Love” to each other. lol.

Send funny gifs or memes. Videos or music are good, too, but your spouse may not be able to listen to them at work.

Snapchat is also a fun way to quickly communicate. I send him way too many filtered faces, though! lol

Surprise each other by doing a household chore

Once my husband texted me while I was at work and he was home. He wanted me to do the dishes and clean the kitchen. So I said I would. I wasn’t happy about it, but who wants to do the dishes?

So I got home and to my surprise, the dishes were already done and the kitchen was clean!

I texted him and he said, “I got you!” He had already cleaned it when he asked me to do it. He just wanted me to be surprised.

Notes on a refridgerator

Leave little notes for each other

You can leave notes for each other on the fridge, on the bathroom mirror, on the back door, or anywhere you’ll be able to find them. Sometimes my husband leaves them on my laptop, and I leave them on the remote. You can tell how technology dependent we are.

The notes can be useful such as “remember to put the trash on the curb” or just fun like an inside joke.

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When you’re working opposite shifts, notes are an important form of communication because they can’t be deleted or lost in your text conversations.

Have mommy days and daddy days

If you’re just transitioning to opposite shifts, you’ll need to explain it to your kids. We explained it to Toot with mommy days and daddy days.

Toot understands that she has the morning with daddy, the afternoon with grandma, and the evening with mommy on most days of the week.

But one day a week she has a mommy day and one day is a daddy day. These are our days off during the week. So she’ll spend the majority of the day with one of us.

Talk to your kids about why both of you aren’t there at the same time.

One of Toot’s favorite things to say is “Daddy’s working!” and “Mommy’s working!” She also just thinks if anyone isn’t there, they’re working.

We couldn’t find the cat once, and she said: “Kitty’s working!”

Tai Pei single serve dinner

Stock up on single serve meals

You probably won’t be able to have too many meals together. We survive on single serve meals now.

Tai Pei is our favorite! They’re so convenient and easy to make. You take it out of the freezer and put the entire thing in the microwave!

They’re the best tasting frozen entrees I’ve ever had. And they have a great range of flavors so there are at least 4 or 5 that both of us like.

Plus, they’re made with real, pure ingredients, and no preservatives or artificial ingredients. So no bad stuff. Just deliciousness! They taste just like fresh Asian food.

Tai Pei fried rice

So when I bought them, I thought I’d have to buy rice to go with it because that’s what you have to do with the other Asian frozen food. Nope! Tai Pei entrees have infused rice, and omg it’s seriously amazing.

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I’m not one to eat all of the extra veggies and stuff in Asian food, but I ate the new Tai Pei Chicken Fried Rice entree ENTIRELY. I don’t think I’ve ever done that before with any other brand.

Single serve lunch at work

I like to take them to work for lunch, while B likes to have them while he’s home.

It just doesn’t make sense for either of us to make a meal for two people when we don’t eat together very often.

So keeping a big stock of single serve entrees is essential for us.

If you’d like to try Tai Pei single serve entrees, here’s a coupon to save $1.00 on ONE (1) Tai Pei® Entrée (7.9 oz. or larger) or Appetizer! 

Tai Pei in a shopping cart

How do you survive working opposite shifts?

Let me know in the comments below!

I know it’s rough, and no one really planned to have work times that don’t cooperate with each other.

Hopefully, your whole careers won’t be like this and it’s just a part of life that you’ll have to get through together!

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Comments

  1. Heather says

    July 17, 2017 at 8:47 pm

    I work days, thankfully from home, while my husband works nights over 50 miles and an hour drive away. As you said, it’s rough.

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  2. Ken Hanaya says

    July 19, 2017 at 10:25 pm

    I can totally relate to this. Both before and even after the wife and I were married we had completely opposite shifts and days off. We’d have to use vacation time to spend either half a day or just 1 full day together. Other than that, it’s all about communication throughout the day through texts or little notes here and there. Make sure food is cooked on either our days off and of course wake each other up for work just to so we can see each other. Hope this helps. Good article thanks for writing.

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  3. Chevelle says

    July 23, 2017 at 9:03 am

    Great tips. My coworker is struggling with this and there is a big strain on their marriage. This is going to be so helpful for her!

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  4. Jacki says

    July 30, 2017 at 8:57 pm

    Loved this! My husband and I have opposite schedules too. Usually we only have one day we’re both home each week and we have lots of catching up to do.

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    • Niki @ Toot's Mom is Tired says

      July 30, 2017 at 8:59 pm

      Same! We have Sundays off together.

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  5. Angelia says

    August 11, 2018 at 4:58 am

    We have worked opposite shifts for 18 years, We raised our kids on this schedule and because we were busy it was tolerable, we always thought of it as temporary. Now that the kids are grown I is just easier to stay on this same schedule. but it has taken a toll on our marriage, we are really lonely without the family around.
    hope we can get though this rough patch 27years married and counting!

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  6. Chelsea Maggard says

    January 24, 2019 at 12:21 am

    I work nightshift as a 911 Dispatcher and he works days as a service plumber, we also both have on call days and with my profession we are short staffed A LOT so random working days are constant for both of us. He also works overnights A LOT. We try to FaceTime as much as possible and I’ve made it a routine to call him every morning I’m working to tell him good morning and remind him of anything he needs.

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    • Niki at Toot's Mom is Tired says

      January 24, 2019 at 1:07 am

      My cousin is a 911 dispatcher! Her husband is a firefighter so they both work crazy hours too. That’s nice you guys talk in the morning like that. It’s a great way to stay connected.

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  7. Jajaira Tinley says

    March 3, 2021 at 10:19 pm

    Definitely can relate. Me and my husband have worked opposite shifts forost of our relationship/marriage. We have 3 boys ages 14, 11 and 7 and all they have known is if one parent being home 6 days out of the week and Sundays we are all together. He works 11pm to 7 am sometimes 11pm to 3pm and I work 7:30 am to 4:30. Which my husband sacrifices his day to stay awake with us and have family time. We have our moments where we feel like it effects our marriage but it actually makes us love stronger and appreciate every minute we have together as a family. I’m so glad we are not the only ones going through the opposite work shifts. Thank you for sharing your story ❤️

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