My best friend and I had our babies within 12 weeks of each other. It has been an amazing experience to share with my BFF from pregnancy through toddlerhood and beyond.
We had no idea this would happen
Corrie and I met on the third day of sixth grade. Little did we know that 17 years later we’d both be pregnant and stuffing our faces with our latest cravings together.
While she was stealing fries from my lunch in high school, it never crossed my mind that in the future I would have to console her that her baby would NOT be ugly after mine was born adorable. She was convinced her baby would be ugly for some reason. Spoiler alert: he’s not. lol
The day after my wedding, she moved away to go to grad school. My maid of honor had to leave the reception early to get up and move in the morning. My BFF was leaving, and I was the personification of the crying face emoji. It never occurred to me that she would move back and I’d be planning her penguin themed baby shower while I had a 3 week old baby.
The day before her wedding, I took a pregnancy test to make sure I could drink as much alcohol as I could handle at her reception. I had been trying to get pregnant for almost a year by that point. But this was the one month I didn’t want to find out I was pregnant because I didn’t want to be the matron of honor that stole the spotlight by announcing she was pregnant. I wasn’t. But a month later I was! Then about 3 months later, Corrie was pregnant!
Sharing pregnancy cravings and everything else
I had a best friend who understood just HOW MUCH I needed a Burger King Whopper right at that moment because she had to have a pile of jelly beans immediately. Even my husband didn’t fully understand the gravity of the situation when I said I needed chili cheese fries on pizza at 4:00 in the morning. (I made that happen by dinner time, and I highly recommend it.)
You know all of those questions you have when you’re pregnant that you either google or ask your friends that already have kids? Things like “when do you start feeling kicks?” I loved being able to ask those questions and talk about what’s happening with someone going through pretty much the same thing at the same time. Someone who has a 5 year old isn’t going to remember pregnancy as well as someone who is currently pregnant or has a newborn baby.
Your BFF is the person you share all of your feelings with. When you’re both pregnant, you’re going to have a lot of feelings. We reassured each other that our feelings were valid or crazy because hormones. It’s like having a tiny support group. Sometimes you just need someone to tell you that you’re being crazy and to let it go.
Do you want to cheat off my baby registry?
My BFF and I also shared our baby registries with each other. We picked different patterns and colors for things like bedding. She was having a boy and going for a monkey/giraffe/animal kinda theme. I was having a girl and trying to do a Harry Potter theme. It didn’t turn out quite like a Pinterest nursery, but still cool.
We also tried different registries to see which store had the best products and completion discount. I went with Amazon’s Baby Registry because the completion discount with Amazon Prime saved a lot of money. It was also easier to shop and order things from Amazon.
Now our babies are BFFs!
It’s fantastic that my BFF and I are going through a lot of the same milestones together like how our babies are developing. But it’s even more special that our kids are becoming BFFs too!
They’re both two years old now, and they love playing together. They’re learning how to share and have playdates.
And they’re learning a lot of skills from each other. They were both a little behind in opposite areas and were able to kind of show each other how to be a toddler. Toot was behind in gross motor skills. She watched Minnow run and climb without fear, and she’s now getting better at it. Minnow took a while to start talking but picked up on all the words Toot was saying. It’s like they both had “aha” moments.
They give each other hugs and kisses, too. We’re already secretly planning their wedding. lol
Are there downsides to being pregnant at the same time?
Unfortunately, yes. One major downside of being pregnant at the same time is that you can’t physically help each other sometimes. It’s hard to do things for yourself when you’re in the third trimester let alone for someone else who is also super pregnant.
I planned her baby shower during the last month of my pregnancy and during the first month of Toot’s life. She came to help me during the first few weeks of having a newborn while she was in her third trimester. Doing things like that would have been so much easier at different times.
Another bad thing about having a baby at the same time: the comparison game is real. You’re naturally going to want to compare your situation with someone similar. We as humans do that to judge what’s normal and what’s not. But every pregnancy and every baby are different. They develop at different rates and there are so many other factors and variables.
Our pregnancies were quite different. She was borderline for gestational diabetes and I passed the glucose test with flying colors. (My doctor was actually shocked that I didn’t have it because of my weight gain. SUCK IT, DOC.) Plus, I was 3 months ahead of her. So we couldn’t quite compare our pregnancies either.
To infinity and beyond!
I’m really excited for our kids to grow up together and share more experiences. We love taking them to the mall to ride around in the car carts and other community events.
Corrie and I like to think about the future. We figured out that because of how their birthdays fall, Toot will start school a year before Minnow even though they’re 3 months apart. I hope they’ll be able to help each other with their homework when they’re older. Or I hope that Aunt Corrie will help Toot with her AP homework when she’s high school because I definitely didn’t take AP classes. lol
Would you plan your pregnancy with your BFF?
Let me know in the comments below!
(No, his name isn’t really Minnow but that’s what we started calling him before he had a name similar to Toot’s situation.)
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