Should You Throw Your Own Baby Shower?

Have none of your friends or family offered to host a baby shower for you? Tradition says someone else throws a shower for the mama-to-be. It’s also much easier on your pregnant self if someone else does the hard work. But what if you don’t have anyone to help?

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Why do we even have baby showers?

This is like an existential question. The thought behind them is that babies are expensive. And usually it’s pretty hard to buy EVERYTHING you need for a baby yourself all at once. So your friends and family pitch in to buy you stuff. And we have baby showers as sort of a gift giving ceremony.  It’s usually only women and girls that attend the shower. (Which, can we change that? Men need to get in on this, too.) Most of the time a friend or family member hosts the shower for the expectant mom.

You probably already know all of this. It’s pretty basic. But apparently in some countries, baby showers are not a thing.

Theoretically, if we saved all of the money we spent on other people’s baby showers, we could just buy all the stuff we need for ourselves. So they aren’t really necessary. But they’re fun and it’s tradition.

 

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What if no one can host your baby shower for you?

If you don’t have anyone close to you that can or will throw your baby shower for you, you can always throw your own. It’s a little against tradition, but no one is stopping you.

Some circumstances you might find yourself in if you have to throw your own baby shower:

• You don’t have any female family members. (Men don’t think of these things.)
• Your close female family members live far away.
• Your family or friends would like to throw your shower but can’t because of time or money constraints.
• No one has offered to throw your shower because they all expect someone else to do it.

Most often no one offers because they can’t due to time, money, or the energy it takes to plan and throw a shower. And they expect someone else to do it. Your best friend probably thinks your sister is doing it, and your sister probably thinks your best friend will take care of it.

But even if tradition says someone else host’s your baby shower, that doesn’t mean you can’t break tradition and do it yourself!

 

Pros to throwing your own baby shower

You get a baby shower!

If no one else is stepping up, and you throw it yourself, a definite pro is that you get to have a baby shower! You’ll get to see your friends and family plus, GIFTS. Don’t forget to set up a baby registry. You can pick out those gifts!

You can pick out exactly what you want.

Choose your theme, your decorations, the cake, the snacks, the venue, the GAMES. I had four baby showers thrown for me for different family and friend circles. They were each different and there were parts I loved but some games I could’ve done without. *Cough* the measure the belly game *cough* (Which was played at ALL FOUR SHOWERS.)

You get to say “screw tradition!”

Get the satisfaction of throwing society’s rules out the window.

 

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Cons to throwing your own baby shower

You have to throw a baby shower. (lol It’s a lot of work.)

It breaks the tradition of someone else throwing it for you.

Some people might think you’re greedy for hosting your own shower. But a lot of people won’t so don’t let this one thing stop you.

It’s a lot of added stress while you’re pregnant.

If you’re on bed rest, forget about throwing a shower. Don’t bother adding more stress if you’re already verging on high blood pressure.

It takes a lot of time to plan a shower.

Between working, planning for a new baby, going to doctor’s visits, trying to keep up with healthy exercise, and everything else in your life, you might not have time to plan a shower. (Similar to your friends and family not having time.)

Baby showers cost money.

One big reason that pregnant women don’t throw their own shower is that sometimes the cost of the shower outweighs the benefits of the gifts. It might just be cheaper to buy everything yourself. Do the math before you announce your shower. (Don’t count the big items when calculating gift total. Big items like the crib or anything else over $200 on your registry usually isn’t going to be gifted.)

 

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Alternatives to a traditional baby shower to consider

You don’t need to have a traditional baby shower where you invite 30-50 people to your house or a church or something. Here are a couple of alternatives to think about.

A small dinner party

Just have a couple of people over for dinner and they can bring you a few gifts. Or better yet, meet at a restaurant! No mess or cleanup. Five or six friends can carve out a couple of hours and pay for their own meals. Even if you have dinner at your house, a home cooked meal isn’t going to be very expensive to provide. Or order pizza!

A Sip and See party

According to tradition, Sip and See parties don’t require gifts. But in lieu of a shower, you can ask for gifts at a sip and see. What is a sip and see? You can read more about that here.

A virtual baby shower

Facebook has made it so much easier to connect with family and friends that are far away. My friend had a virtual shower 6 years ago before Facebook Live was even invented.

Here’s how it works:

1. You register for gifts on Amazon.
2. Invite your friends on Facebook.
3. Your friends can buy gifts and have them shipped to your house.
4. You keep all of the packages in one spot (No peeking!)
5. At the time of your baby shower, go live on Facebook and open your gifts. Your friends and family can comment and talk to you and each other.

 

 

So really should you throw your own baby shower?

It’s completely up to you! I say don’t worry about judgy judgersons that may think it’s weird you’re hosting it yourself. If you’ve got the stamina, time, and resources, go for it!

But if it’s not your thing, that’s cool, too. There’s no law that says you have to have a baby shower. Try something else that isn’t a traditional baby shower. Or just save your money and buy everything you need yourself.

Sometimes when you want something done, you have to do it yourself.

What do you think? Let me know in the comments below!

 

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